There was once a time when romance was deader to me than a bag o’ bones.
After my son was born, there was absolutely NO time for that (or so I thought). I was unprepared for a newborn and it was difficult to keep up. I didn’t want any of that lovey dovey crap… I just wanted to sleep!!!
Fast forward two years later to when my daughter was born, and once again romance was deader to me than a bag of dead bones, buried in a vast dry desert, nowhere to be found…
Finally (and thankfully not too late), my husband and I realized that our relationship was starting to suffer and we had to do something about it. We had to find that dang bag of bones and somehow bring it back to life. Defibrillator, STAT!
* Truth bomb: It’s so important to focus on the relationship you have with your significant other now because when the kids are grown and moved out, you’ll only have each other.
Here are some simple ways to keep the romance alive and kicking in your relationship!
1. Have talky talks
It might feel impossible to have a conversation with your spouse when the kids are running around the house like wild, untamed stallions. Horse sounds included.
Sure, we get the chance to talk with our spouse when the children go to bed, but what’s it usually about? Kids, daily struggles, kids, work, money, kids and kids… These things are fine to talk about, but make sure you have time set aside specifically for talks about the things that don’t pertain to kids and marriage; interests, hobbies, books, etc.
This may not sound the most romantic, but never underestimate the power of a QUIET conversation! Turns my romance meter on just thinking about it.
2. Send love texts
Cell phones. The main source of communication around the whole dang world!
Text messages are the easiest way to get ahold of someone. Especially if that someone is at work (because we all know everyone sneaks texts while on the clock).
Send some messages to your love whenever you get the chance. They can be appreciation texts, love texts, cute texts, saucy texts… you get the picture. And speaking of pictures, send one of those, too. 😉
3. Smooch more
I don’t remember what show I was watching (maybe Ths Doctors?), but it stated that french kissing your significant other should be done on the daily. Why? Because that’s the first intimate act we do with someone. It brings us back to the beginning of our relationship; fresh, new love.
Be sure to regularly kiss your spouse to keep that intimacy strong. Make it French for more intensity. Ooo-la la!
4. Touch often
Human touch is an oh so powerful thing. Touch can bring on many different feelings and emotions. In a relationship, positive touch conveys warmth, trust, and love.
If you and your spouse aren’t touching much, you’ve gotta get on it… or should I say, get on him. 😏
5. Have regular date nights
This one is super important. Make sure you regularly get out of the house with your spouse. Hey, that rhymes…
Get out of the house with your spouse. Brush your teeth, comb your hair, and wear a nice blouse. For your night, out the house, with your spouse.
Just call me Dr. Lazy Seuss!
Anyway, get out of the house without any gremlin… I mean, kids… and it will do you both some good. Make it an extravagant date, or just a relaxed night. Whatever the two of you like to do together.
If you can’t go out for date nights on the reg, have date nights in! After the kiddos go to bed, watch a movie, cook dinner together, or indulge in DIY wine and canvas. Check out Pinterest for an endless supply of great date ideas!
6. Try new things
It’s easy to do the same ol’ same ol’ with my spouse. I get into a routine and don’t want to budge from my comfort zone. After all, my comfort zone is my hypothetical plushy bed in the world, where I feel most safe and warm. It’s a difficult place to leave.
But without fresh, new ideas, romance can quickly go as stale as that piece of bread I accidentally left in my car for a bazillion years. So go ahead and try something new with your significant other. You may be pleasantly surprised. Or you may hate it, but you’ll never know until you try!
Do you have any tips that keep your romance life sizzlin’? I’d love to hear them! Comment down below and don’t forget to share this post so romance doesn’t die!
Until next time…